In my lifetime I've had a wide-ranging set of heroes. Musician's, athletes, doctors, Presidents, astronauts, soldiers. Heroes come and go, I suppose, dependent on where you are at the moment.
My daughter has had hers as well. Singers she admired, authors and artists, for a while she was on a kick where she was enamored with classical composers of all sorts.
But the one hero she has had that has been constant has been...me.
It's not that I'm a larger-than-life figure or anyone over-the-top special.It's just that I remained. I've stayed in her life through a terrible post-divorce life marked by a career loss, homelessness, humiliating defeats and disappointments and broken dreams. There were a lot of promises that wound up on hold because of the losses we encountered these past five years. A lot. But I remained in her life because that's what Daddies do. They keep their word. They stay, when the whole world leaves. They are there at every recital and play and art show. They don't miss a weekend visitation or a nightly phone call. They take a day every week or so and stop by to have lunch at school because, even if she's more adult than little girl now, and even if she acts a bit like she doesn't like you being there...she likes it when your there. The same for your sons. They get older and you think they are "too cool" for hugging but that's when you should hug them more because they still need to feel your embrace. Especially us divorced dads. Men, don't ever let your children begin to process the time apart as distance apart. Time is one thing but distance is quite another. Let them know that they are always...always in your heart. You are constantly thinking of them. You love them more than ever. Be a man of prayer and tell them you are praying for them. Pray with them every chance you get. Learn what is really on their hearts and let them hear you praying about that.
You are never not the dad!
If you do the job the way you should do the job, you'll be their one remaining and enduring hero.
Strengthening What Remains,
Monday, March 12, 2012
Hey dads...last nights show was GREAT! If you have suggestions for guests or topics PLEASE email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I have some great guests coming up in the future! I need YOU! Call in and let's talk and encourage other dads. Tell me who you'd like to hear from!
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Are you a dad who depends on Social Media like Facebook, Twitter or Skype to connect with your kids? If so this show is especially for YOU! This week I welcome Curt Livesay who is in the final stages of research for a Doctoral thesis on this exact subject. Is social media a valuable tool or a cheap substitute for real connection? Is there a danger that judges will see social media parenting as an acceptable means of parenting from a distance and begin permitting custodial spouses to move to distant towns? Is social media parenting a trend and a threat? If you are a dad who uses this medium, please dont miss this episode. We want to talk to YOU! Call us Sunday night at 9PM DadMatters!