tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.comments2023-05-23T03:07:47.554-05:00Sometimes Daddies Cry...a Divorced Dads Forum.Craig Daliessiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04622536691388864746noreply@blogger.comBlogger494125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-86006308356561406322021-09-26T12:01:16.938-05:002021-09-26T12:01:16.938-05:00Unknown, I'm very very sorry to hear that. Ple...Unknown, I'm very very sorry to hear that. Please please stay strong as is what your kids need the most. Know that there are many like you and you are NOT alone. While there is nothing I can do to help your situation, the only thing I can do is sympatise and hope that you can see your "amazing little ones" as soon as possible. Hang in there. We all hope for the best for your situation. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-18396988730729867702021-09-25T10:43:59.532-05:002021-09-25T10:43:59.532-05:00I miss my kids Soo much I haven't been able to...I miss my kids Soo much I haven't been able to see them for a month I'm so lost and hurt I can't barley make it out of bed for work o have been trying to just work and stay there after everyone is done but I'm starting to lose the ability to think of anything else but my beautiful amazing little ones I didn't know it was possible to hurt this deeply I need some support somewhere.... I've never asked before but damnit I'm so broken right now and it's the worst thing I have ever feltAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06911816890194901473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-68497910312188509052021-07-28T15:56:15.643-05:002021-07-28T15:56:15.643-05:00I have 50-50. Seeing my daughter only half of her ...I have 50-50. Seeing my daughter only half of her life and missing out on that is what I regret most. The years of heartache whenever I would drop her off and counting down the days when I would see her again. The upside was that the time I spent with her was quality time and the ex had no part of that.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09677347848835067743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-27370986715607379752021-07-28T15:48:31.620-05:002021-07-28T15:48:31.620-05:00I have 50-50. Seeing my daughter only half of her ...I have 50-50. Seeing my daughter only half of her life and missing out on that is what I regret most. The years of heartache whenever I would drop her off and counting down the days when I would see her again. The upside was that the time I spent with her was quality time and the ex had no part of that.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09677347848835067743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-55607918483688759872021-05-29T17:51:41.899-05:002021-05-29T17:51:41.899-05:00I’m so sorry you have to go through this pain , it...I’m so sorry you have to go through this pain , it’s so unfair Missing peace’shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05830851705229836446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-83466228175571556082021-04-11T01:31:05.146-05:002021-04-11T01:31:05.146-05:00Thank you, readin this blog has made some calmness...Thank you, readin this blog has made some calmness over come my pain tonight. Thank yall againAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-9734933659547894262021-03-28T07:53:37.296-05:002021-03-28T07:53:37.296-05:00I miss my kids so much. I see them every second we...I miss my kids so much. I see them every second weekend. The Sunday they go I re- live the loss over again. I feel so empty when they are not here. I want to be with them always, it’s hard to cope seeing their toys, clothes, shoes etc around. I just think of them wondering what they are doing, wondering if they know just how much I love them. It’s been 10 years, 10 years of brokenness. Sending love to you dads out there. You’re not alone even though you feel it. Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324600555943788276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-68069042366670294992021-03-28T07:53:11.293-05:002021-03-28T07:53:11.293-05:00I miss my kids so much. I see them every second we...I miss my kids so much. I see them every second weekend. The Sunday they go I re- live the loss over again. I feel so empty when they are not here. I want to be with them always, it’s hard to cope seeing their toys, clothes, shoes etc around. I just think of them wondering what they are doing, wondering if they know just how much I love them. It’s been 10 years, 10 years of brokenness. Sending love to you dads out there. You’re not alone even though you feel it. Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324600555943788276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-69039658850337775352021-02-26T09:40:29.097-06:002021-02-26T09:40:29.097-06:00Hi, i'm a 37 year old divorced dad of two beau...Hi, i'm a 37 year old divorced dad of two beautiful little boys ages 5 and 7. Their mother left me after a horrible hunting accident in which i fell 26 feet out of a deer stand that broke. She stayed for 3 years afterwards but I was literally in pain 24 hours a day and wasn't able to work. But I still had an income albeit only 25k a year but it was still something. She is a Pediatric Dentist and so money was never really an issue. I also was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and major depressive disorder. So on our 9th anniversary she told me that she is not in love with me anymore and that I need to leave the house. So i did thinking that we could discuss it more later.... emotions were high and i needed to think. I never returned home. She wouldn't let me. <br />I spent 2 years in a state of such depression that I was not able to get out of bed hardly. The nightmares i had of her leaving me over and over again were more than I could bare. So i started abusing the pain medication i was taking to numb the pain of her leaving me. Big mistake. It took me years to get over the addiction to pain meds but i am proud to say i have been sober for two years....<br />I still have nightmares about her leaving me.... and there is one in particular where she is loading up our kids in the car and i'm just standing there, i'm yelling at her "I am ok now!! I"m better now! please don't leave me!" I literally wake up in tears shaking because that situation really happened. <br />My kids are literally little geniuses. My oldest took a national reading comprehension test and placed in the upper 90th percentile. I am doing well myself as I have recently moved to Colorado and have a wonderful albeit busy job making pretty good money. I have been clean for 2 years and have totally turned my life around. <br />But the pain is still there. I listed to our song this morning on my way to work and I cried like a baby... anyways sorry if this is rambling but I just needed to post SOMETHING! I have no one to talk to !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-6763210140416366612020-12-18T02:12:09.870-06:002020-12-18T02:12:09.870-06:00What can I say, I feel I have failed my 3 daughter...What can I say, I feel I have failed my 3 daughters. I miss them so much. When mybex and I split up she had the nerve to tell my daughters it was too much of an inconvenience to let them stay and take them to school even though she moved only 1 mile up the road. Then she got her own place and was running guys on left and right. So I pick my kids up and pay the babysitter who lives on the same road as the ex and she informs me my 3 year old geta up on the weekends and roams the neighborhood till she notices ans takes her in. Houra later when the ex notices she is missing she comes looking for her. Multiple timea this happens. So during the divorce everytime I go to court I get pulled over because someone calls me in saying this or that. Then I start getting set up, someone puts drugs in my car and I get pulled over. All her to try to make me look unfit. This has been going on for 2 years. It caused me to lose the relationship I lucked into after my ex with the absolute woman of my dreams, I mean it was love at first site. The stress took its toll along with other things that had happened. Every day is a struggle just to go on because my 3 daughters were my life. I coached all their sports, took them every where, we were inseparable ans they knew o loves them with every fiber of my body. I had it all town away and it has killed me feom the inside. Its impossible to explain to people what this does to you, OT slowly kills you ans people dont realize just how truly painful it can be. Ryanburhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15944942551708448560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-45026627214343198512020-09-29T17:43:38.233-05:002020-09-29T17:43:38.233-05:00I'm in the process of getting a divorce. We ha...I'm in the process of getting a divorce. We have a 2yr old son that i love and miss so much. We agreed that i would be able to get him Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. But I feel that that is not enough for me. I've offered for me to raise him and still pay child support but she said no. I know that he will be better with me because she would rather not be at home. I understand that we all need a social life but she rather be somewhere else then home. That was one of our problem. I spent too much money because everything we went out it cost me money. What do I do? How do I control my feelings until he gets back? We agreed that open communication was needed since he is so little but I haven't heard back from her. She knows that this bothers me. My guess is she is trying to get to me for the day we go to court. What do I do? Whats my next move? On top of all this I was laid off in March cuz of the pandemic and still unemployed but I was just cut off unemployment funds. I enrolled in community College to get a degree in processing technology. I feel my world is imploding on me and then it will explode to finish me off. Desperate for help!!!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13780068014100204991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-48639477260982692662020-09-24T05:07:34.199-05:002020-09-24T05:07:34.199-05:00Please keep this site going. I’ve come so close to...Please keep this site going. I’ve come so close to suicide so many times I can’t count them. The pain never ends and never will end, but if I can hang on then you, dear reader, will too. Clearly suicide and violence is not the answer. We need a federal law or court action to set the “custody” to always presumed 50/50. But family court is the cash cow of the legal industry so it’s going to take something special to turn the tide. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376057481792102417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-47800738795892335632020-04-30T12:50:35.121-05:002020-04-30T12:50:35.121-05:00I have also went through pure hell since july1st20...I have also went through pure hell since july1st2011 till now and my children are grown and haven't seen nor heard from my younger child in 6years or more and I don't think their mother nor grandparents and family cares that I bout died that night and slowly dying since and beat completely to nothing. I love everyone still but love will kill a person like myself to love and need it back. I'm still hoping it's tuff though and damn tuff love.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07707755151033262983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-12010612190465807222019-12-30T17:54:35.874-06:002019-12-30T17:54:35.874-06:00OMGsh!!! We are the ones who are dying in the pews...OMGsh!!! We are the ones who are dying in the pews. My boyfriend is a divorced dad who has been put through the ringer, unjustly so. My heart goes out to you and I pray that The Greatest Dad will bring peace and love to your wounded heart. I understand and hear you. <br />Sincerely,<br />Robyn ReadyVoth<br />Glory to God in the highest and on earth peace and good will to men.Robyn ReadyVothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04638166245815795986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-36959394796454483182019-12-05T10:43:45.113-06:002019-12-05T10:43:45.113-06:00Hey, I have been dealing with this hell for 6 year...Hey, I have been dealing with this hell for 6 years. I have also posted here before. I found something that has helped me so much more than I could have imagined. I turned to the church. Not the Protestant or Catholic Churches. I found comfort and solace in the Orthodox Christian Church. They truly will not judge you for what you have been through, and they have solid advice. I had abandoned faith for a long time, but now that I have found Orthodox Christianity, it’s like everything is just falling into place for me. I will pray for you all, and I hope that all of you will find the same peace I have. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-909710124183718822019-12-05T02:06:48.048-06:002019-12-05T02:06:48.048-06:00This is the case with me also. 10 years with a ma...This is the case with me also. 10 years with a manipulative controlling ice queen. I supported her and our 3 children by working 2 jobs so she could focus on the children (all 3 were under 5). Only to have her get an attitude because I wouldn't do what she wanted me to to, make up lies to turn those close to us against me, steal many thousands of dollars from my savings (we weren't married legally). And proceed to get a restraining order against me. After all that there's no way I can afford to even fight for custody. I haven't seen the children in 5 months. not for 1 second. She just gave birth to our 4th child. No one would tell me when it was born or even the sex! I hurt SO BAD every moment of every day. I talk to the children and tell them I love them so much and miss them even though no one hears me and I'm talking into the air. Some days I we question my sanity whether I can even keep going. I think about suicide dozens of times a day every day. Even though I was super dad the best I could be and my children were / are EVERYTHING to me I'm so over loaded with self hatred when I have a day off all I can do is drink and sleep. I miss them SO BAD. I don't miss her at all I miss THEM. So much to say. I don't know how much longer I can do this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-91623705651974854442019-09-22T17:26:12.656-05:002019-09-22T17:26:12.656-05:00When all you love is taken how do you go forward? ...When all you love is taken how do you go forward? I gave 12 years thick and thin. I can't be fixed from the pain that reaches to the depths of my inerbeing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-2711131842655827402019-08-16T15:16:16.412-05:002019-08-16T15:16:16.412-05:00I'm gutted a relieved I'm not the only one...I'm gutted a relieved I'm not the only one that feels this way. <br /><br />My situation is my ex and I were together for 10 years. My first and only relationship. The last year opened my eyes to the fact I was just trying to force something that wasn't making me happy. I battle with that thought most days when I miss her because I do love her but know that getting back together would end the same way. <br /><br />I see my daughter quite regularly during the week it will be from 6pm when I get to hers from work until approx 7:30pm that's usually Tuesday and Wednesday and a night stay Friday or Saturday night. It's when I'm the most happiest just the gaps in between weighs on my head like a bin lorry, constantly think about her, what she's doing, does she think of me. And the big one is am I being a good father because I doubt it all the time. <br /><br />As she gets older will she wonder about the times I wasn't there. If she gets married one day would I be invited. If she has kids would she let me have them over night. <br /><br />There is a lot more but I'll leave it for the time being. Knackered going to get a hours Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-9081081168134412582019-06-27T05:34:22.587-05:002019-06-27T05:34:22.587-05:00Hector, I'm listening man. How can I help? Do ...Hector, I'm listening man. How can I help? Do you go to church anywhere? Any good guys you can talk to?Craig Daliessiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04622536691388864746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-24706192826249231022019-06-27T00:32:10.012-05:002019-06-27T00:32:10.012-05:00I need help I'm 6 months out of my family'...I need help I'm 6 months out of my family's home. Recently betrayed and divorced. 13 yrs 3 children�� struggling really bad without my children..mentally not doing well.. any suggestions Hector chavirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01983660040266307737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-40067598170281317232019-06-09T16:33:51.868-05:002019-06-09T16:33:51.868-05:00My story is slightly different. I have 2 daughter...My story is slightly different. I have 2 daughters (8 and 9), and I've been raising them by myself for a few years now. Their mom suddenly popped up living in another state and tried to make amends. I've always wanted my daughters to have a relationship with their mother so I was open to the idea of them seeing her. I never tried to keep her away, or talk bad about her to our kids. Their mother BEGGED me to let them come spend a couple weeks with her this summer and I agreed, partly because I want them to develop a better relationship with their mom, and also because I thought I needed a break. BOY was I WRONG. I took them to their mom and made it home. THAT'S WHEN IT REALLY HIT ME. I called their names when I walked in the door (which is something I do EVERY day) and of course I got no response. I walked upstairs to their room and once I saw the empty beds it all started to sink in and I couldn't keep the tears from flowing. I know that they're coming home in a month or so, but MAN I never understood just how IMPORTANT their presence is in my life. I feel useless, lonely, and unfulfilled. I'd basically given up any semblance of a social life in order to focus on my kids because they'd been through a lot in their younger days, so I don't have many friends. Too often in our society Men are written off as "optional" When it comes to child rearing, so most people have no idea How deep a Fathers love can go, or how Crucial the Element of being a parent is to his everyday life. I'm nobody without my kids, so I know how a lot of you feel. Thanks for creating this blog. It's a step in the right direction for all of us real fathers out here, who genuinely love and miss their kids... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14745106345488742795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-52203030449923297562019-04-11T16:14:27.455-05:002019-04-11T16:14:27.455-05:00I know how you feel...it s soooo sad what we men g...I know how you feel...it s soooo sad what we men go through after divorce in this time of life...hopefully custody laws will be fair for next generations...never give up on your children no matter how old they get...staying up one night or every night taking care of your nineteen yr old daughter is the least thing u can do for her for missing out most of her childhood around you ... 5, 19, or 35... age does not matter she a fragile whistle u be there for her as long as your alive Sofianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005852760896549883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-36724728217937272962019-01-31T20:31:25.396-06:002019-01-31T20:31:25.396-06:00Miss my two angels, I have them 3 days a week. but...Miss my two angels, I have them 3 days a week. but I feel dead the other 4 days. I can't work, I can't think, I can't enjoy anything. When they are with me I sleep like a baby, the other 4 days I struggle to sleep.<br />After 10 years she decided to cheat. And now me and the kids have to pay the price.<br />I had some videos from my older son has just start walking, and I just can't watch that anymore, it really gets me sad, makes me think of all those moments I am missing each week. Reading other post seems the agony won't stop any time soon.<br />I wish there are more support for dads, unfortunately, we cry in silence and get treated like we are the assailant even when the opposite is true.<br />This also hurt me financially, and I slipped into depression. She filed for child support and I got charged with rates based on last years tax income where I was working two jobs so double income. And when I corrected my income with them they did not pay me back for the extra money they took from me.<br />I really wish GOD would hear my prayers. I just want this pain to stop.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-72627861586174277102018-11-07T16:24:55.286-06:002018-11-07T16:24:55.286-06:00Hi name Monte and I'm 47 years old and I haven...Hi name Monte and I'm 47 years old and I haven't seen my daughter in 15 years and I just wanted to say to ya never give up.its not over..my ex accused me of everything that you can think of ..she couldn't just divorce me she tired to kill me and she almost did..keeping my daughter from me..but guys God in control and I know if u give it to him and trust him it will happen it hasn't been easy for me some days are better than others but I know that will get better..I don't know if it helps anyone but if I can go on without my daughter for 15 years and not go insane u can too...I'm gonna pray for every father out there ..u never know what tomorrow bringsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04171111412803006285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2532545828899975303.post-51766359559301380332018-10-09T14:14:55.982-05:002018-10-09T14:14:55.982-05:00This blog is an eye-opener. As a woman who has rec...This blog is an eye-opener. As a woman who has recently married a divorced father of 3 wonderful children, I am truly humbled. Thank you for courageously pouring your heart out for ALL, but especially Dads of Divorce. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com